A question of Identity.
‘For you created my innermost being, you covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made’ . Marvelous are your works and that my soul knows very well. Psalm 139:13-14 Notice key word my soul knows very well.
We all need a regular reminder when you are stuck in traffic and you could have checked out traffic news before you set off., another reminder when you mess up an interview, again when you lose your temper. Another reminder of these powerful words when your loved one walks out on you, or someone decides you are not the right fit for that promotion. This can lead to negative self talk and the more you rehearse in your mind and verbally what you don’t do well, the less you believe in your potential and self-worth. You may cover this nagging feeling of being incomplete by chasing careers and toys that wow everyone else hoping you become the wow factor. It does not have to be that way.
A deep sense of confidence that I am fearfully and wonderfully made, is the beginning of knowing your self-worth and value. You can love others from this view-point, without having to put your own values and needs on the back-burner. There is a time and place for helping others sacrificially but does not have to be the norm. Case in point is manipulative and controlling relationships. The one doing the controlling and manipulating feeds off the generosity of the other, who is tolerant, but to a point. Creating a boundary with such individuals then becomes a necessity.
Loving without compromise is loving within the safety of personal boundaries. Knowing you are complete in Christ helps to have healthy boundaries in serving and loving others. If you are all burnt out helping others, how can you finish the work God called you to do. Rest a while. Am reminded in the book of John about Jesus and His followers. He had many people following Him, after they had seen His many miracles. But He did not let them have power over Him. It can be an addiction to serve, but you need to get refreshed, energised and inspired. This only comes with regular breaks of resting and praying